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Care of Souls

With Tenderness.

Four days alone, a body that woke up empty – and instead of scolding it, she does what her channel's name says.

Four days alone with the baby, and a morning that feels like the start of an illness but is only tiredness with nowhere to put itself. Her answer is a declaration most mothers have needed and few have made out loud: today I'm a lazy mom. No porridge, no laundry, no tracking anything – and no apology attached.

The move underneath is the one Amor Fati practices at full scale: such days also have the right to exist, and the body that carried four days alone has earned rest, not a scolding. She doesn't push through the day; she signs it. And the signature is the name of her whole channel – «С нежностью к себе», with tenderness to yourself. Six lines, and the channel's name stops being a title and becomes a decision.

That's the entire post. Some days, it's the entire practice.

Today I'm a lazy mom. I've been alone for four days – my husband is on a business trip.
I woke up as if I'd fallen ill: tiredness. Today I'm not giving her porridge for breakfast or purée for lunch. Today she eats breast. I'm not doing laundry, not cleaning; today I'm not tracking the diet and I'm not sure I'll do my workout. Yes, such days happen too – and instead of scolding an already tired body, I give myself rest.
With tenderness to myself💙

Translated from Russian
by Bella

Thank you for reading.

If her words reached somewhere mine don't – good. That's what this blog is for. Take what fits and leave the rest.

– Jan

Where this comes from:

The original post
This post on Telegram, as Bella published it – in Russian.
С нежностью к себе
Bella's channel on Telegram – all of her posts, in Russian.

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Care of Souls
Bella walks the same way in a completely different voice – diary-honest, from the middle of life. Selected posts from her Telegram channel, translated from Russian.