Stability Doesn't Exist.
There is no “stability” – there is simply life, with its surprises, trials, and gifts. And that is exactly its value.
A loud claim, and Bella doesn't apologize for it. Her definition deserves to be quoted: stability is an illusion born of the fear of controlling everything – the self-deception that you govern part of your life, or all of it. The steady job can end three ways before breakfast; the same goes for friendships, hobbies, life itself.
That's the spiral from Fear and Control in one paragraph. But her landing goes further than debunking: instead of chasing the myth, learn to be steady inside – and meet change with an open heart. The Universal Principle of Balance calls that the center: not a fixed state to hold, but an equilibrium that restores itself when you stop gripping.
Life hits hard sometimes and wraps you in warmth at other times, she writes – and exactly that is its value. Amor Fati, in her own dialect.
🌸 Stability doesn't exist
A loud claim, I won't argue. But let's look at what “stability” is.
Stability is an illusion born of the fear of controlling everything. It's the self-deception that you govern part of your life – or even all of it.
For example, a person wants stability in the form of a steady source of income. They find a job and “gain their stability.” But is it real? The company can be shut down, they can be laid off, and they themselves may one day want to walk away from it all. Turns out it's not so stable after all.
The same goes for friends, hobbies, and life itself. However you live, there will be rises and falls, grief and joy, heavy moments and incredibly happy ones.
“Stability” as such does not exist. There is simply life – with its surprises, trials, and gifts. Sometimes it hits painfully, and sometimes it wraps you in warmth and joy. And exactly in that lies its value.
So maybe, instead of chasing the myth of stability, we should learn to be steady within ourselves – to meet change with an open heart and with trust that everything goes the way it should.
Thank you for reading.
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– Jan