Soar.
On the quiet courage to let yourself rise – and the freedom of accepting every part of who you are.
There is a phrase we hear often, spoken with the best of intentions: "Stay grounded." It sounds like wisdom. It sounds like care. But when we trace it back to its root, we sometimes find something else hiding there – a quiet fear of what might happen if we allow ourselves to feel fully alive.
We explored this territory in "Fear and Control" – how fear drives us to tighten our grip, to rein ourselves in, to resist the very aliveness that wants to move through us. And in "Surrender," we saw how letting go of that grip opens a door to something far deeper than safety: trust. Trust in ourselves. Trust in the unfolding.
This letter arrives from that same place of trust. It speaks to the moments when joy rises so strongly that we instinctively pull back – and to the moments when heaviness settles so deeply that we try to push through. Both impulses come from the same root: a fear of surrendering to what is. A reluctance to accept ourselves exactly as we are, right now, in this breath.
Dear wanderer,
"Stay grounded" is the ultimate self-limitation. A belief that implies that if you surrender to your inner joy and longing, nothing good awaits you there.
This phrase demands nothing less than the suppression of your inner world. That you smother your inner fire before it can even catch – just because otherwise "something might happen."
We will never ask you to diminish or limit yourself. Everything we ever tell you, everything you are invited to do, is this: Be fully and completely YOU. Accept yourself fully and completely. And yes, now and then you soar – and in that soaring, you create something extraordinary. You can simply accept that side of yourself. Just as you can accept that sometimes you can barely get up, and everything seems unreachable and pointless – that, too, is a part of you, and you are allowed to fully accept that part as well.
When you soar and then counter it with "beliefs" like "stay grounded," it is the same as when you are exhausted and still try to force yourself to be creative – you are swimming against the current. Trying to control. Behind both lies fear. Fear of surrendering. Fear of trusting and following your inner feeling.
In soaring, it is the fear of not deserving it, of not being worthy. The fear of being caught by reality. Behind it hides a belief that you do not deserve it, that it is not meant for you.
In the inability to rise and yet still wanting to create, the fear behind it is the fear of not being enough. The fear of failing. And so the urge to perform, to produce. Behind that lies the hidden belief of not being good enough. Of only being accepted when you "deliver."
Let us say this to you: You are exactly right, just as you are. Simply because you are here. You do not need to "earn" anything – everything already belongs to you. It always has. And it always will. You are already everything, and everything is you. Let go of these limiting beliefs. Surrender to your intuition. Let yourself be guided from within. If it feels like jumping, jump! If you want to sleep, sleep! Do not fight against yourself. Instead of clenching, relax. Become open, become permeable. Listen to yourself. To your inner voice – and surrender to it. In the trust that you are taken care of. That you are being guided. That you are on YOUR path. That you are right – just as you are.
That you are loved.
Thank you for being here.
If something in this resonated, I invite you to sit with it, reflect, or respond in your own way – in thought, in writing, or in quiet presence.
And if not now, that's okay too. There's no rush.
Until next time,
– Jan