Envy.
Envy is just another form of fear – a mirror reflecting our own limits and the longing for self-love.
Most of our struggles share one root: the longing to feel whole. To feel enough. To rest in ourselves without measuring, without comparing, without fear.
Then someone crosses our path who seems to have what we lack – peace, confidence, ease – and something in us tightens. That tightening is envy. Underneath it sits an unmet need: to accept ourselves fully. To love ourselves as we are.
The letter reframes it simply: envy, like fear, can only take root when we want something – when we are attached to a particular version of ourselves or our lives. The moment we release that grip and surrender to what is, envy begins to dissolve. It is the same move "Coming Alive" walks through: staying in your own lane, living the one life that is actually ours instead of measuring it against someone else's.
Dear traveler,
Envy is just fear.
When we envy someone, it is because we carry – consciously or not – a fear of something. And the other person embodies a state in which that fear has no power. A state we long for, but from which our fear keeps us.
Envy is a feeling that arises when someone mirrors our own limitations – or rather, the limiting beliefs we have placed upon ourselves.
That is one half. Just like fear, envy can only take root when we want something. When we have an expectation or hope for a certain outcome. Without wanting, without a desired result, there is no fear – and no envy.
Letting go, hearing the inner voice, and surrendering to it completely – this leads to the state of being whole. Of accepting yourself fully and completely, in all aspects. That is self-love.
In this wholeness, neither envy nor fear can exist. A state of being – without wanting. Of allowing – rather than doing.
Be one.
Thank you for being here.
If something in these letters stayed with you, take it along – think about it, write your own answer, or just let it sit.
And if not today, that's okay too. There's no rush.
Until next time,
– Jan