Envy.
Envy is just another form of fear – a mirror reflecting our own limits and the longing for self-love.
There is a quiet thread that runs through so many of our struggles: the longing to feel whole. To feel enough. To rest in ourselves, without measuring, without comparing, without fear.
When we encounter someone who seems to have what we lack – peace, confidence, ease – something tightens within us. That tightening is envy. But beneath it, something else is stirring: a deep, unmet need to accept ourselves fully. To love ourselves as we are.
This letter offers a simple but profound reframe: envy, like fear, can only take root when we want something. When we are attached to a particular version of ourselves or our lives. The moment we release that grip – the moment we let go and surrender to what is – envy, too, begins to dissolve.
In wholeness, there is no envy. In self-love, there is nothing to compare.
Dear Wanderer,
Envy is just fear.
When we envy someone, it is because we carry – consciously or not – a fear of something. And the other person embodies a state in which that fear has no power. A state we long for, but from which our fear keeps us.
Envy is a feeling that arises when someone mirrors our own limitations – or rather, the limiting beliefs we have placed upon ourselves.
That is one half. Just like fear, envy can only take root when we want something. When we have an expectation or hope for a certain outcome. Without wanting, without a desired result, there is no fear – and no envy.
Letting go, hearing the inner voice, and surrendering to it completely – this leads to the state of being whole. Of accepting yourself fully and completely, in all aspects. That is self-love.
In this wholeness, neither envy nor fear can exist. A state of being – without wanting. Of allowing – rather than doing.
Be one.
Thank you for being here.
If something in this resonated, I invite you to sit with it, reflect, or respond in your own way – in thought, in writing, or in quiet presence.
And if not now, that's okay too. There's no rush.
Until next time,
– Jan